Having a disaster in life is not always bad | May be bound but not chained

So last night, I watched a show that reminded me of something of what happened a few years back and made that feeling fresh again. Well, if you think that this post is about a heartbreak or a love problem, I am sorry it's not (too bad eh? haha!). On the other hand, I am sure that most of us have come to a certain point in life that we thought our lives were a disaster, that we felt being left behind by the world, that so many bad things are happening at the same time and they are too complicated to be resolved.. That we are losing the grip from our dream, that scary feeling about what the near future has in store for us, and that hopelessness that we might have done everything we could but was not good enough..

Foursquare Singles Youth Department - A church gathering
Foursquare Singles Youth Department on their hero positions (Haha!)

I remember the group taking pictures that night so I searched for them and found out that it took place 5 years ago already (not the picture above nor below lol). Man, time flies really fast! So back then, we have different care groups which we share life stories with. We meet almost every week and it usually happens on a Sunday night. We are kind of updated with the happenings of one another and most of the time, we end up closing the establishments where we do it.

What was my state before that specific sharing happen? I honestly do not remember it exactly as it is anymore, but what I recall then was that I was not feeling good - speaking generally in life. Well, we have our own standards of our own states so for me at that time.. I recall it on being one of my lowest moments..

And to my surprise, what I was going through was nothing compared to what the others are actually facing. (Pardon me as I need to write this as general as possible and not splurge any personal detail)

I will be brutally honest here that after knowing some of their problems, I felt a sense of relief and an actualization that my problems are not that serious. Their problems ARE. So it kind of gave me a different perspective that "Hey, my problems are not that big of a deal anymore". I felt that if they can face that big of an ordeal, why am I taking these petty problems of mine bigger than they should be. And when I try to place my own shoe to theirs, I think I can't handle it the way they do. I will really look worse 100% and might have taken it exponentially worse! With that said, I was admiring them at the same time.

So, contemplating on what happened during that time, my problems were instantly wiped out and my attention was focused on what the others were going through. There was one situation there raised up that I cannot imagine myself to be in.. so I said to myself that "I may not afford to help this guy with the means the situation needs but I will really try to regularly check-up on this person as that is what I can genuinely give - with God's help, we got your back!".

[Now to the show I watched last night]

This celebrity personally visited a contestant who was on this reality show because he was moved.. on knowing the story behind this girl on why she wants to win the program. So despite the busy schedule, he showed up on the program and helped this girl intentionally because she made him feel how petty his problems were.

[Going back to the blog post]

I was instantly reminded of how similar this situation was to what I previously experienced 5 years ago, so I was moved and decided to share it here as well. I will bring up the issue that the situations that are given may not be in the best conditions to get inspirations from but despite how bad the condition you may be in right now.. Just think of the possibilities that you may have been inspiring people around you in many ways you are not aware of (or you just don't know it yet). It is actually a win-win situation where the one with the bigger problems create opportunities for others to help and may get support from others once it is recognized.. And for the people with the smaller problems to let them know how small their problems really are and share comfort with the ones with the bigger problems - (sana na gets niyo lol!).

Care group milk tea night
Milk tea nights! Anyone?

I was blessed enough to be surrounded by Godly friends as these conditions are critical. We can search for help, temporary relief & happiness to forget them (problems) or even answers to a lot of things in this world, but I would like you to know that giving them to God is the key. I remember the viral trait "Paying it forward" which may just be the perfect example to explain the acts behind these situations. But we must all remember that these good acts should only be the fruit of our main mission here, which is to follow and be like our Lord, Jesus Christ.

So just as a reminder, if you are currently having giant problems right now or probably stumble them soon: Please..

- Do not depend on your own strength and understanding (they will fade eventually),
- Do not settle for temporary solutions (prevention is better than cure),
- Our brain is located on top of our hearts (though easier said than done) but believe me prayer works!

And don't forget that when life throws rocks at you, be smart that there are a lot of responses to choose from other than being beaten down by it:

- Think of the opposites that will make you appreciate blessings more
- Convert the situation and make your mess your ministry
- Absorb the experience - learn from it and make it knowledge
- Look at it at a different perspective that will make you a stronger person
- You can even counter it with faith

And there it goes. All I wanted to share is that disasters in life happen - some people may be going through exactly what you are experiencing right now (so you are not alone) and some are even in worse conditions (try to appreciate that). But eventually, you'll move on. The longer you stay in it, the harder it is to get out. There are far better things ahead and remember that! There will be people ready to help you so don't ever face them alone. And again, I won't get tired of saying that more importantly (not just in marriage), put God in the center of everything because He is in control. God bless you!



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115 comments:

  1. we all suffer from one metal of emotional problem so when you meet someone who’s willing to stay connected and committed to knowing you and actually want to develop with you, don’t let your dog pride and ego get to you.

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  2. Kristine Nicole AlessandraJune 10, 2019 at 3:32 PM

    This is an uplifting post. We always have difficulties in life, and I look at it as a way to "purify" or "Cleanse" my soul. Trials bring me closer to God and my faith. When I encounter setbacks/frustration/difficulties in life, I always keep in mind this quote - "When you feel you are at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." Have a blessed day!

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  3. They say,things happens (good or bad) for a reason,no matter always keep yourself the positive vibes and share it to others,a simple hello and smile to others can change a mood and it does not cost a thing.Stay positive.

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    1. So simple but so meaningful - Best things in life are for free indeed.

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  4. I believe everything happens for a reason and that we have to learn and move on with our decisions.

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  5. I always feel good and positive after I read your posts.You have a beautiful energy and that shows in your writing here on the blog.

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  6. Growing from your mistakes or mindsets can be tough, no matter the situation! Your feelings are valid. I always say, "its just a bad day, not a bad life."

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    1. Kind of true on the end phrase. So giving up is not an option really.

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  7. after EVERYTHING that has happened to me and especially in the last year or so I've really come to believe that everything happens for a reason. sometimes that reason might only make itself known down way down the road but it really does happen for reasons.

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  8. Life is a curveball and sometimes we get the other side of good. Processing such depends on your approach to life and what happens beyond that moment. keeping a positive attitude helps a lot

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  9. That is great advice for when we are experiencing problems. Looking at a problem from a different perspective will produce a different solution.

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    1. Yep. Do not take it just the way it normally is..

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  10. We all have the power to transform & create our own ending. Disasters & unfortunate things are a part of life, it's all about how we respond!

    -Madi xo | http://www.everydaywithmadirae.com

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    1. One of the important factor is how we respond really.

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  11. Without trials, it's somewhat difficult to understand the simple things we enjoy on a daily basis.Good health is underrated, it takes being sick sometimes to enjoy the health we have. So yeah, those trials actually do help strengthen us, and it is better when we have people to lean on.

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  12. Enjoyed reading this. When I face a setback, I always try to be positive about it because I know that dwelling on it will not get me anywhere. I find that this mentality has helped me a lot.

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  13. Annemarie LeBlancJune 11, 2019 at 8:38 AM

    Being a mom of three young adults, I always try my best to set an example that "disasters in life" are just bumps in the road to success. We should never expect that path to be perfectly paved and straight. It is with these "disasters" where we draw strength to get up and move forward.

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    1. Preach mom hehe. Experiences are life lessons we really need to learn from.

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  14. This post has such a positive message that a lot of people don't even know they need to hear. I love it! Thank you!

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  15. I have always believed that everything happens for a reason. That the broken roads are blessed and without falling we don't learn

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  16. This was such a positive read! I agree that a lot of dealing with a situation comes from mindset, positivity, and looking at the problem from a different angle.

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  17. This is true. Life is like a maze. Twists and turns in every corner. Unexpected obstacles. Otherworldly objects dragging you down.
    But our job is to get through it! Thank you for this.

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  18. Yes, it is so important to look your problem in a different perspective and treat it in a positive way for us to find a better solution.

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  19. A lot of people would connect to your experience. What doesn't break you, only makes you stronger. ( Now where have I heard that?)

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  20. Wha a great article, I really enjoyed reading this. Our experiences are what makes us.

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  21. This is such a wonderful article to read and acquired deep wisdom. Life is really full of obstacle and problems but this things will make us stronger as we know. Giving up is not an option in this life. We should always be positive whatever happen, see the bright side of any situation even in bad.

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  22. This post was very much needed for me. I am facing a major setback. It is hard for me to stay positive. I hope it will help!

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  23. Life can be a rollercoaster of emotions, but working to keep our own thoughts, feelings and emotions in check can be a powerful step in the right direction! Thank you for sharing

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  24. I think depending on your own strength and understanding is something everyone should continue to do while also seeking help and advice from parties who are able to look at your situation objectively and offer different viewpoints. Whatever we have going on in our own lives, it's always relative and remembering that SOMEONE is always there to listen and lend a hand is extremely important. Nice post. Thanks for sharing all of that.

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  25. Loved this post and appreciate your sharing this as they are words and amazing advice that I can use for sure. Love that you should give your problems to God as that is very true. If I do not turn to him.... I really have a hard time handling the stresses and pressures of life. I appreciate this post more than you could know... and will be back to check out more of your work. Thank you and God Bless :)

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    1. I appreciated this comment. Thanks a lot!

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  26. Events in our lives help us mature and grow. Some are happy and others are not. All are lessons.

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    1. ..that we need to learn from not just acknowledge

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  27. I was just thinking today of the last few months - they have been full of a ton of "obstacles" but now I am calling them "learning experiences." I have had such an up and down lately and at this point today I am feeling very detached from the emotional side of things. I do have a deep faith that things will get better though, thanks for spreading that message.

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  28. I just love the way that you took other people's experience to put some perspective into what you are going through. Only too often I think that my problems are massive and then I realize that others have it tougher and it makes me put everything into perspective.

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    1. First-hand experience-impact are so different!

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  29. What a very positive post. Everything happen for a reason. Life is not easy but what I love most about Filipinos are being strong and eve the worst disaster comes they are able to keep smiling

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    1. We just need to learn from them not do it every time it happens..

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  30. Thank you so much for sharing!

    Meagen | toasttopost.com

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  31. This can be a great realization. Mostly, if we stumble upon a problem so big we think it's the end of the world. We always have our family and friends that we can reach out for help and support.

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  32. What a wonderful ans very uplifting post. So happy to see people who finds happiness seen in their most difficult days

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  33. I think comparing ourselves with others at times like this always helps because it can put things in perspective and make us realise there's always worse and we have no where to go except up.

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  34. This is true! Thank you for these reminders :) its important to always stay positive

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    1. though its not as simple as it is but yes, please do

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  35. Sometimes the mess we're in are actually what guide us to better situations. Always look for the positive.

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  36. I have had my fair share of trials and disasters. I found it made me a more positive person in the long run. I know how bad it can be and celebrate the small things. I keep those who love me for me close. <3

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  37. Geraline BatarraJune 12, 2019 at 1:10 PM

    Love this post.. Whatever trials that we have in our lives shall pass and we always have to keep going...

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  38. twinspirationalpartiesJune 12, 2019 at 2:31 PM

    Misfortune or failures are only made to make us stronger, maybe sometimes it's too much but God will never give it if we can't get through it..

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  39. I have always believed that everything happens for a reason. I am very happy to see people who finds happiness seen in their most difficult days. Thanks for this

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  40. Really awesome tips, we have to be ready to work with the situation we have and turn it into something positive

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  41. I suffered depression last two years ago it is serious thing and sensitive dumating na sa punto na mag suicide na pero lately na realize ko na there's always hope and chances at hindi pa huli ang lahat kailangan mu lang magtiwala sa sarili mo at manalig sa kanya. :)

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    1. There is always hope, actually battles have been won. We just need to choose the correct decisions in life, make it our lifestyle and share that to others.

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  42. Life is full of hope and I admire so much these people who tried to be good in their most difficult days.

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    1. esp. when ones situation is hard too..right,

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  43. Mama Maggie's KitchenJune 12, 2019 at 8:07 PM

    This is so inspiring! I would love to watch that movie, too. Thanks for sharing.

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  44. I see something genuinely interesting about your blog so I
    saved to fav.

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  45. Great and uplifting post. There are moments I like to call blessings in disguise. These moments are when something goes horribly wrong but it overall creates a better tomorrow. An example is just recently a friend of mine had a pipe burst through her wall, flooding her house. For anyone, that's a huge problem. It automatically means new floors and construction. Luckily for her, it was a blessing in disguise. She has insurance that will cover all costs of the damage and now she gets to choose the floors she has always wanted in her home.

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    1. Now that is a true blessings in disguise!

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  46. That's a very beautiful motivating post. I loved reading your post. That's a very positive post

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  47. Inspiring post. I’m always trying to put a positive spin on whatever life throws at me. I think half the battle is accepting that life isn’t always going to be easy. But nothing worth doing ever is!

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  48. It is important to have a good support system. Good you have great friends around you.

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  49. Hi there, I check your blogs like every week. Your story-telling style is witty, keep it
    up!

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  50. Life brings us so many joys and struggles, I have had my fair share. I always try to find something to be grateful for no matter how bad the situation is, and it helps me to get through! So grateful for your post and sharing your feelings, so many people cam relate..including me! God Bless

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  51. Love your post. God helps me numerous times in my life. Actually, without Him, I will probably be dead 20 years ago. Now, I`m blessed to be a Christian missionary and helped others to meet God. He is our strength.

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    1. Man, I salute to you and please please continue what you are doing! You are an inspiration to many.

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    2. Thank you 🙏 Michael.

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  52. I believe that situations are temporary. Some are permanent but the time will do the healing.

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  53. Thank you for these words of wisdom and yes, na gets ko! We all need a boost and having a support group just makes things better no matter how small or big our problems are.

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  54. Thanks for these words. I needed to hear them today :)

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  55. it is a good thing to be surrounded with people who will uplift your morale in every problems we encounter.

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  56. Thank you for the positive words. Been crying for 2 days and started to loss appetite. But I believe in god plan. Everything will get better eventually. :)

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  57. It's important to remember that everyone has their own problems. Even if another person's issues are more severe than your own, it doesn't mean yours don't matter. But it can help put things in perspective.

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